My 50th birthday is on Valentines Day. Should i be hurt that all I got was flowers and dinner,same every year.

My birthday is very close to Christmas, and occassionaly I get gifts from others that say Merry Christmas/Happy Birthday. It is not right. It is not your fault that you were born on February 14. You should never put up with your birthday being ignored. If you need to celebrate your birthday or Valentine%26#039;s Day early or late, do that. You deserve your own special day.

My 50th birthday is on Valentines Day. Should i be hurt that all I got was flowers and dinner,same every year.
Be glad you got something instead of being ungrateful and feeling sorry for yourself.
Reply:Well, did you express your desire for something more? If no one knows it would be important to you to have a big party or something you can%26#039;t fault them for not providing it. I know when my birthday starts to roll around I%26#039;ll make suggestions of things I would like to do or have that way I won%26#039;t be disappointed when no one reads my mind.
Reply:Obviously it hurts. This was a very special day and I%26#039;m sure you were hoping for something a little more than the norm just to recognize that fact. Unfortunately guys tend to get into ruts and stick to the same patern every year as long as it seems to work. Confront your man and explain to him that your were disapointed and hurt that he didn%26#039;t recognize this year as being something more special than the norm. If he doesn%26#039;t do something for you then, grab the checkbook and do something special for yourself because you deserve it.
Reply:You must realize that he cannot read your mind. If you have certain needs, you should openly and honestly discuss these needs with him. He probably has no idea and you are not satisfied with dinner and flowers.





Explain to him that you would like to receive a more special gift, a party, a certain trip or whatever you desire. He loves you and would probably go out his way to please you. Good luck next year!
Reply:tough question...you know some men are pretty simple and need explicit direction or there will be no change. now for 50 years flowers and a dinner has made you very happy in his mind... probibly judging by your expression and your expression fake for the last 25 years as to not hurt his feelings...maam, you just have to tell that big love bird you need some change...he%26#039;ll understand
Reply:you got more than I did.
Reply:Men have no brains, I would be hurt too if I got the same thing every year and then you hit a milestone which is special and he didn%26#039;t recognize it.
Reply:Don%26#039;t be hurt, because atleast you got dinner and flowers,lol. Did they wish you a Happy Birthday too? If not, then yea I%26#039;d be a little upset. They should combine v-day with your b-day and make it %26quot;extra%26quot; special because its a double occasion! If they don%26#039;t, then next year make it a big deal for yourself and that way others will take it as a bigger deal and more than likely do more for you or maybe get you something special.
Reply:If you are tired of the same thing year after year, plan something yourself. Tell him he is giving you a trip, and give yourself something wonderful. It will be good for you and your man, to try something new.
Reply:if you are hurt you are no one can tell you how to feel.


I on the other hand i do not like a big deal made out of any birthday more then another. I think it is stupid when people say ohhhhh your 30 or ohhhhh your 45 your over the hill or ohhhhh your 50. a birthday to me is a birthday. but I dont like to much attention. you may be different. I also have never felt old and have never had a problem with turning any age. I cant wait to get old so I can retire. by the way I am 35. I may be to young I dont know.
Reply:I would be. Your 50th birthday is a big deal! Is this from a significant other? Tell him how you feel! Maybe he doesn%26#039;t know..
Reply:yes you shoudl be hurt...50 is a special moment in one%26#039;s life, and it should have been done super special
Reply:Why should you be hurt if you do not know what you want.What you want on valentines day?work for it
Reply:My mother%26#039;s 50th is this year. I forgot her last birthday all together. She had to call me and remind me to rush out and get her something.





Although I plan to make it up to her this year, be grateful that your family and friends remembered you.



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